I never thought I have a story. Well, we all have. But I never reckoned my story is worth telling. And then, one day I had a client, who told me about her life-changing surgery, and I was like, whoa! this girl!!! Then there was another one. And another one. And one more.
For almost a year I’ve been thinking about how inspiring and impactful are these stories. And how much I would love to tell them to other women in similar situations. To give hope. To encourage. To let them know that it’s going to be ok.
I’m now finally ready to launch my “This is me” campaign.
– WHAT’S “THIS IS ME” –
I thought long and hard about how to implement this project and here’s what I’ve come up with.
THIS IS ME will run for the duration of 2020. If by the end of the year I have at least twenty women participated, in 2021 I want to set up an exhibition of their portraits and print a photo book. This is a tangible goal of this campaign.
The true purpose of it is for women to be seen and heard. Knowing they’re not alone. Knowing they are enough.
“Remember, if someone is sharing images or videos of their wonderful life, you don’t know what they went through to get it. For every triumph, there might have been a bucket load of blood, sweat and tears.”
I had a very nice childhood, full of friends and adventures. I grew up in a small village and we did it all. I started smoking at 12 and drinking diluted 96% spirit shortly after. Hey, it was so much fun! Totally worth all the hard spanking.
At that same age, I survived a rape attempt. And maybe, just maybe, I would have grown a softer human being, if my mom gave me a hug, when I came back home in the morning covered in blood, and told me she loves me. But instead, she said: that’s going to be a lesson for you. (Btw, we were never told that we’re loved. As my dad once explained: it’s not a thing in our family.)
Later, when I was living in a toxic abusive relationship, I called my mom once and asked to pick me up, because I was afraid that my drunk husband is going to smash my face or break my ribs. She didn’t. She had stuff to do.
I learnt my lesson. Never ever ask for help.
After 10 years of drinking, fighting and unwanted sex, I broke up with my ex. I was alone with 5 years old child, in a foreign country, with barely any English and I lost my job. I had times when we had nothing to eat and no money to buy heating oil.
I never cried about it. I thought it’s just life. Ordinary. Average. Life. Nothing to complain about. But I knew, I don’t want to live like that any more.
And I didn’t.
I promised myself never let anybody (including myself) treat me like a piece of shit. And it changed it all.
“You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less travelled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.”
I’ve turned 40 this year, and I can’t be more proud of who I’ve become and still becoming. I am so happy with everything in my life now – my family, relationship with my partner, my children, my bunch of best friends, my job, my health, people I got to work with, people I got to learn from…everything! And I’m so looking forward to the future because I know, life is gonna get only better. Because every day I choose to live a better life. And I am extremely grateful for all the past events and people that led me to what and who I am today.
– NOW TO THE DETAILS –
In order to be a part of THIS IS ME campaign, you need to book a photo session with me ( and have a story). You can see what I shoot on my PORTFOLIO page.
I will also ask you to sign the agreement allowing me to use your pictures, videos and the story on my social media accounts, blog, website, exhibitions and printed materials.
In return, I will apply your full session fee as a credit towards the purchasing of your photographs. I will also gift you the fine art print after the exhibition is over.
To apply for this project, check out the INFORMATION page for all the details about my shoots and fill in the form below choosing what type of session you want to go with – All-Inclusive or Bare.
And tell me your story.
I can’t wait to hear from you, gorgeous!
Truly yours, K.xx